Dear anita,

I am not able to trust myself with my own life. My constant fear is that I am a raging, emotional and unstable person and that i may ruin my life by trying to change things up or choosing a path different from everyone else. I have lot of anxiety about how things could get worse. What if I go off on my own and am not able to find a partner. My mother often reminds me that i may regret this later – when i am sick, old or in a financial crisis. It is the only thing that scares me about not getting married.

It takes so much to keep one aspect life – say work – running and yet I am so unhappy. Am i just lazy? I am not able to trust my judgement. What if i should be working harder, am I just using manager and team’s behaviour to excuse my lack of motivation but it may well be that I am not cut for this? What if my manager is right about me? I am again very anxious that i will never have enough skills and may easily get fired. I don’t understand why it is so hard for me to set my mind on something and work for it.

I don’t understand why I cannot act on things and i don’t know how to tell if my judgement and analysis of things in my life can be trusted

Gj