I think you’ve answered your own question- go with your gut and stand your ground. In my experience, a strong gut feeling is never wrong. It’s completely natural to want to question it though- after all this guy has some great attributes, and maybe that’s not something you want to give up for the single life and being alone etc.

i think it’s worth holding off moving in together if it seems risky. A secure roof over our heads is always going to be top priority.