Dear VLC90:

I think that we can figure this out, if not today (I will soon be away from the computer) then tomorrow. It will take some back and forth communication. I am trying to understand then: your mother did “emotional dumping” on you when you were younger, and still does. Your ex boyfriend was not emotional but highly logical, and that was calming to you. But off too, because he emotionally too detached, removed, not there for you.

Your current boyfriend is emotional. Are you afraid of finding yourself stuck with him being emotional, like you were very stuck with your emotional mother?

anita