Dear Laden:

Having read your current and previous thread regarding this man, the two of you met through a dating app in March or April this year and he was clear with you from the very beginning that he is not interested in having children, not soon and not later. You were less clear but figured out soon enough that your position is clear: you do  want children later.

“we both said we could see a future together if it weren’t for our opposing views on kids”- I have one comment on this, a possibility (not a certainty, of course)- because it was clear to him from the beginning that you differ in this regard, and because of his efforts to end the beginning relationship early on, it was easy for him to have an otherwise smooth, best friends type relationship because he knew it will end soon. When in a relationship one knows will end soon, no reason to be bothered by challenges that are irrelevant to a pre-determined short relationship, such as parental approval (significant element in your south-Asian culture), finances, and whatnot.

I mention this just in case you become nostalgic about this short relationship, thinking that this man was the best match for you and no man can compare. This kind of nostalgia can hurt your view of future men and future relationships.

I hope you feel better soon and hope you post again anytime you want  to.

anita