Dear Laden:

Thank you for your appreciation.

“I often doubt whether there is something wrong with me”- I didn’t detect anything wrong with you. Dating is frustrating because .. most people are emotionally unhealthy, including most of your friends with or without the “3+ years relationships”. It is very difficult to find a suitable man for a relationship and marriage. The good news is that you need only one man out of the millions out there. So there has to be one who will be suitable.

I understand that you have some difficulties because your parents fought a lot, that is always damaging to a child. And I bet the suitable man for you will also carry with him damage from childhood, but the two of you can work together like a team, an effective team, and with hard work and perseverance you can build a beautiful relationship.

It takes time and a wise strategy to find a suitable man and then make it a healthy, loving relationship of trust and mutual respect and kindness. Such a wise strategy has to start with getting to know a man very well before becoming physically involved with him and before investing a lot emotionally. Get to know him first, then figure if investing in each other, is a good idea.

Clearly, this man and the one before him (your first thread) were not suitable men for you.

anita