Dear Ash:

Tell him then that you made a big deal out of nothing really. Tell him what you learned from the experience, tell him in a casual, factual way, not in an overly-sorry kind of way, as if you committed a crime. In other words, don’t make a big deal out of … your mistake. It wasn’t that terrible. After all, he makes mistakes too. Tell him that you made a mistake and what you learned from it, and he will be more comfortable to tell you when he makes mistakes and what he learned from his mistakes.

* In a previous thread you shared how your mother who is married for over 35 years kept making comments implying you are not good at relationships (and ignoring how well you are doing professionally and financially)- I don’t know her personally, but I don’t trust her to be a valid source or  resource to how you function well in a relationship- she is not doing well in her relationship with you, after all.

I say, you are or can be as good in the context of a relationship with a man as you are in other areas of life.

anita