Dear Annie:

That is what happens most often when we experience a significant lack in childhood: we “don’t feel the anger toward (our) parents anymore” but we feel it toward our boyfriends/ partners in each and every relationship. You were jealous from the beginning of your now ex boyfriend’s friendships, expressed in your previous thread and in the post right above your post to me: “He always chose his best friends over me”.

Problem is that you are likely to feel this kind of jealousy for your next boyfriend and the next (or for this one, if you were to resume the relationship),  until you address the jealousy you felt as a child when one of your parents (or both) seemed to prefer other people over you- other family members, maybe even neighbors or strangers.

The old jealousy in childhood is likely to disrupt your relationships throughout life, if not addressed and resolved. I experienced a similar kind of jealousy myself and have made significant progress on the matter.

Do you want to share about this old childhood jealousy?

(I will soon be away from the computer and back in about 13 hours from now).

anita