Dear Sofia:

Here is our exchange from August 16 this year, almost four months ago:

anita: “Five days ago you I suggested you seek professional help as soon as possible. Your reply to me, Aug 11:  ‘My mom was just going to find me a therapist.. and maybe getting diagnosed.. I do want to know if I have OCD, and if I should be taking medication, so I’ll bring it up to her. I’ll be sure to update after I seek professional help”- Did your mother set an appointment for you to see a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist?”

sofia: “No she hasn’t yet. Something went wrong with the insurance failing, so she can’t get me a therapist or psychiatrist yet. I will eventually though.”

anita: “.. There are free counseling services available for teenagers, be it through your high school or a community resource, counseling services available for people who  do not have health insurance and who can not afford to pay. Go yourself to your school nurse or school counselor, tell that person.. what you shared here on your various threads, and ask for help. There is nothing here that I can do, or any other member can do to help you with your sexual thoughts and obsessions, it takes a trained professional to help you with this.”

sofia: “Ok, I will think about doing it. That would be very difficult to do, but I am at a point where I think it’s necessary that I do it.”

anita: “It is necessary for you to seek help at school because obviously your mother didn’t arrange for help for you. The OCD websites you go to, describing and going on and on about your sexual obsessions- those websites will not help you.”

sofia: “Ok, I appreciate your response Anita, I will do it for sure then.”

anita: “Don’t share your sexual obsessions with strangers on the internet then. Share those obsessions, those thoughts, images, compulsions, all of those things with a health professional, such as a counselor in school, a psychotherapist, a psychiatrist. But not here, not online, and don’t read about others’ sexual stories online. If you want help- get it from a professional in a professional setting.”

sofia: “I won’t, thank you anita. I’ll tell you how it goes after I tell my school counselor.”

And you didn’t get back to me.

I am glad that in your new thread you did not share about your sexual obsessions and compulsions, but you may still be doing that on other websites, OCD websites. But doing so did not and will not help you. You need professional help. “I think there’s something wrong with me”- well, why don’t you seek professional help, starting at your school?

anita