Dear Jess:

You told him that you’d “give him a month to sort out his life”. I figure it takes way more than a month to “fight his demons”-

– His demons being his fears (“scared of jumping into a serious relationship”)- fear is powerful.

You wrote that when you met, the two of you aimed at “a serious relationship leading to marriage”. If he was sincere about it, then he quickly got scared and is no longer aiming at a serious relationship.

So I would say, better you move on. When you meet another candidate for a serious relationship, see if you can figure out- before getting physically intimate with him, so you don’t get hurt this way again- if he is scared of what he says he wants, and how deeply scared he is.

Post more anytime.

anita