Hi again Narsil,

Okay, my next question is, do you have a very deep and personal career or other life interest that you haven’t yet pursued? A creative urge that’s been developing inside of you, but you don’t know how to get started or if it’s even feasible? That’s another reason you may not feel ready to settle down with a guy. If this is true for you, the anxiety could be your inner being trying to get the attention of your conscious mind. Imagine yourself smoothing things out with the boyfriend and getting going on your life’s purpose! He will wait, and be supportive, if he’s the right one for you.

The best way to find out if your feelings are authentic or not is to give yourself time and space. And maybe try a new therapist. If they give you the same feedback, that’s further confirmation.

What do your closest friends think? Is there consensus or at least a majority?