Hi all,

Sorry to butt in on this thread but I have read almost the whole thing and just wanted to say how helpful I have found it. I can relate to all of your stories so much, especially Shelbyville- feel like I could have written your posts myself! I recently (ish) broke up with someone, and am feeling exactly how you were feeling at the start of the thread- waking up at 4/5 am every night, having stomach issues and serious issues with anxiety (I’m considering starting medication), dreaming of him and thinking about him maybe 90% of the time, but not checking his social media! I’m probably still in the denial stage hoping we’ll get back together one day, but it has been fascinating reading about how you guys did get back together and then broke up again. I also feel like I’m too sensitive and feel things too deeply, and that breakups hit me much harder than they do other people. In my situation, though, I was only with the person for a few months (although we’d been quite intense friends for a year beforehand) so I don’t have the excuse that it was a very significant relationship! The only thing that is getting me through is knowing that I felt very similarly when I broke up with someone around 5 years ago- it took me maybe 2 years to get fully over it, I kept feeling like he was perfect for me and eventually we’d get back together one day (although he had moved to America, which is why we broke up!). But now five years later, we didn’t get back together and I honestly feel nothing for that guy- I checked his social media for the first time since we broke up recently and it had absolutely no effect on me. So, whilst these things can take years to get over, I eventually really did, and found a new person to be heartbroken over!! I hope all of your situations work out and that you feel better- I just wanted to thank you for restoring my faith in humanity seeing you all consistently support each other, and providing this thread as a resource to help others like me gain perspective on our own situations.