Dear Stepan Pavlas:

You wrote: “I love love and if you don’t love what I said you don’t love love- This is just an idea, of what love means… You all can add to this topic. let’s see what we agree and disagree on”.

You used love five times in the title of your thread: you used it as a verb in loving love, loving (or not) what a person says. Love is often used in a casual way: I love pizza, I love rainy days, I love you! Yes, even I-love-you can be used in a casual way. We eat the pizza that we love, and when it is gone, we get another; we love a picture on the wall, but we don’t notice it most of the time; we even love this or that person, but we don’t bother to notice how he/ she feels and whether we can help.

We shouldn’t love people in the same way we love pizza or a picture hanging on the wall, once in a while dusting it, but most of the time passing by it, not noticing it. Loving a person takes noticing: you look sad, what is it? You sound scared, tell me, what scares you?

A parent who loves their child will say something like: you were in your room for two hours, I missed you! Or, out of nowhere: I want to tell you son, I am so happy you are in my life, it makes me feel good to know I have you as my son!

anita