Dear Peeeeet:

It seems to me, based on what you shared, that it is “actually be for the best, to part ways”. Even a “mostly amazing, full of love, laughter, adventure and genuine happiness” cannot make up for so much “toxic dynamic.. repeatedly over the years.. so many trivial things have become such triggers of aggravation.. immersed in cognitive distortions, keeping scores on past grievances and snapping back.. too many times to count.. hurt, frustration, anger and resentment”-

– too much suffering in the context of this relationship, for too long, and as you stated: “respect and trust was eroded”. And if indeed, it is true that it is you who did  “cause so much damage to someone I love so dearly”-  and therapy didn’t work for you,  better save him from more damage, and give him the opportunity to heal by ending this relationship.

I’d say, it’s the right time to no longer waste your energy of an energy-draining, lose-lose relationship, and instead, use all your energy, individually and separately,  to survive this pandemic and be  healthier people at the end of this global crisis.

anita