Dear Peeeeet:

There aren’t enough police officers to check how long every individual is out, it is a matter of self-enforcement, or self policing, similar to self-isolating, we do it if we are socially responsible, and all  of us should be socially responsible, not only during a pandemic, but at all times.

Regarding you messing things up by saying that you are not sure it’s good for you to stay together- if he was quiet and minding his own business, and you said that, it would be one thing, but he was acting crazy, “frothing mad”, and … crazy  is catching, or using terminology of the time, crazy is contagious. So  forgive yourself for catching his crazy this time.

I do think that there is hope for the two of you because he knows and acknowledged to you that his behavior has been out of his control, having had an outburst, so he knows that you are not the only one capable of losing your cool. He is  likely therefore to forgive you as you forgive him.

Key is, do not repeat previous misbehaviors with him, rude, selfish, hostile behaviors, consistently, day after day, week after week- do  not repeat- and he will learn to trust you. He is motivated to trust you. If you make it possible for him to trust you, he will.

anita