Dear Riya:

I expected you to feel badly again, this is why I posted for you five days ago that you will feel badly again,  “when it happens repeat reality to yourself, and if you want my take on reality, post again”.

Glad you  posted again. The photos triggered your deep sadness over the breakup. After all, it was your first relationship and you did get emotionally attached to him. Once such attachment is formed, pain is automatically experienced when we lose the person to whom we grew attached.

Don’t be alarmed over feeling this sadness, or over any distressing feelings you are experiencing over his engagement. These feelings are natural and automatic. We don’t choose them. As you experience these feelings, this burden alone, be there for yourself, that is, say to yourself what you wish someone else would, such things as I will tell you now: it’s going to be  okay, Riya. You are feeling badly now, but you will feel better later. He didn’t replace you- no one can replace you. And you will find love with a better man, one who will treat you kindly and respectfully at all times.

anita