Dear YI:

It’s possible that the loss of your feelings for him doesn’t have much to do with him or with your relationship history with him, but more with your anxiety and your growing up experience with your parents.

You wrote in your original post: “I couldn’t go home because my parents (separated) had always been negative about love because they never had great relationships and overall almost everyone in the family .. is  toxic when it came to love.”- this is a powerful sentence. As I typed it here I became confident that your experience now, with this man, has to do with the atmosphere of “negative about love” and “toxic when it came to love” that you experienced at home, growing up.

Will you tell me about what I italicized above?

anita

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