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  • May 10, 2020 at 11:20 am #354250
    Sandy23
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    Hi everyone

    so a little about my problem – I’m a teacher who works abroad from my home country. I started working in an international school in August 2019, and didn’t enjoy it. I actually don’t enjoy the school life very much there.
    I also struggled to settle in with the social side. I made a few friends who I really get on with, but knew at Christmas that I would be leaving in the summer.
    after Christmas, my school said that they can no longer keep me in my subject due to new ministry guidelines, something which I was fine with initially because I was already leaving anyway.
    but then everything changed – I started to hang out with a great bunch of fellow teachers who were fun and inclusive, and I even may have started the beginning of some sort of romantic relationship. I started to really enjoy the social side.
    now I feel like there is no way for me stay and see how things develop, and that I have to reluctantly say good bye and move on. I think it’s the right thing to do, but I’m struggling to deal with the feeling of missing out on friendships that I’ve developed and my romantic feelings. It feels very much like Sod’s law – just plain unfair.

    has anyone had a similar experience?

    May 10, 2020 at 12:02 pm #354330
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sandy23:

    Sod’s law suggests that there is such a thing as fate that intentionally creates bad outcomes specifically tailored for the individual, for example Beethoven the composer losing his hearing, or Rick Allen the drummer losing his arm in a car crash.

    This Sod’s law in your case, would suggest that fate saw that you were okay with going back home, so it intentionally created a situation where it will be difficult for you to leave.. just so to make it difficult for you.

    Only people have such intents, not a fate. I don’t believe in Sod’s law. It is possible that you experienced social success after you were okay with leaving because you relaxed, knowing that you were going back home. Relaxed, you were able to make friends and even start a romantic relationship.

    anita

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