Thank you Anita and Brandy for your thoughtful insights.

Anita – no my parents didn’t really instill thinking of others in me. Mum’s parenting method was based on guilt tripping and telling me my duty as youngest was to provide free childcare and help my sisters out. Only recently I realised my mother got out of helping my sisters by sending me whenever they needed help! I don’t blame my mother as she did the best she could I suppose.

Brandy – it’s not just due to lockdown, he was kicking his ball every day for hours. I used to escape the house and take kids somewhere to get away but now I can’t which makes it unbearable. It’s not just the kicking it’s the father getting involved and screaming and shouting “Yaayyy what a goal!”. Even before lockdown this was a regular thing. In all weather they will be out. I will definitely take on board what you are saying and maybe tomorrow when I hear the noise I will distract myself. You’re right I do need to keep my energy for Future  issues. It’s not working getting angry and to be honest I don’t want to have a conversation with them as I know my personality I will keep thinking about what I said. Thank you.