Dear Cecilia:

If he is into rollercoasters, he should go to rollercoaster parks, not attempting to get a ride from a good woman like you.

“that he got bored” with you is not because you are boring, but because you are not a rollercoaster ride: you are a woman with feelings and a need to love and be loved, not a ride for him to get his excitement and surprises!

“Feels like I was not good enough”, no, you are good enough. It’s just that he is looking for something he shouldn’t look for in a woman. (Maybe that’s why in Dec when he had physical intimacy with his ex, she told him “that it meant nothing to her”, maybe she reciprocated it having meant nothing to him first, maybe).

“I feel ashamed having developed feelings for him”- I wish you didn’t feel ashamed for needing to be loved. Unlike him, you were willing to do what it takes to love and be loved. He wasn’t willing to reciprocate, as I understand it.

anita