You are entirely right. It’s my first relationship of this kind, with respect and not abuse, so I was often confused about what should be and shouldn’t. Was he supposed to be nice all the time ? Was I being nice and warm and loving all the time because I was being a doormat and denying my own emotions or because it’s the way it is supposed to be in a loving relationship? I wasn’t sure about where to set my boundaries.

But when we moved in together and he changed, that wasn’t some isolated moments. That was most of the time that he was cold and uninterest, and it went on for a.few weeks (almost 2 months ) where i’ ve been patient and understanding, and then I told him I was done because his behavior was making me sad and unhappy (it felt very much like to live with my parents again).

I’m confused and would be happy to hear your opinion.