Dear anita.

No one has ever talked about emotions that way before. What you said was truly insightful. Thank you. So to clarify: thoughts➡️feelings➡️actions➡️behavior➡️character. Feel free to correct any errors mentioned in the post.

Recently heard that “character isn’t words; character is action.” It sounds like the gist of what you mentioned previously.

The morals of the sexual relationship aren’t good, to be honest. The emotions behind this would be anger, sadness, revenge. Yes, there’s the thrill of “going against the grain.” To do something taboo. But there’s still the element of love, bonding, trust. For a man to appreciate someone despite their flaws. To be adored would be the most wonderful feeling.

Yes, it’s sick for a man to take advantage of a vulnerable, sad girl. It’s wrong for him to take her innocence, her virginity, her youth. But in all honesty, there’s an element of wanting to be taken advantage of. Wanting to feel validated. For a moment, she can receive a love she’s never been given. Yes, this girl clearly has self esteem problems. Yes, this girl doesn’t value herself. She’s simply trying to get by.

Yes, he’ll use her for her body and leave her high and dry.

Guess you’re right. He simply isn’t the “man of my dreams.”

“Daddy issues” is defined as someone (usually a female) who has experienced physical or emotional abuse and/or abandonment by a father or a father figure. This leads to her trying to find a father figure. This can be through sex/forming relationships with older men, alcohol/drug problems, entering abusive relationships and having low self worth in general.

Hopefully this post will have some value in it.

Suzanne.