Hey Anita,

Thanks again for your response so I just have to ask you a couple of follow-up questions.

First, I assume you think it would be a bad idea to press her for more information, correct?

Secondly, I understand I am responsible for my own feelings but after all I have shared with you don’t you of think there is a missing “piece” on her end? Here’s the thing, the reason  that Facebook Memory popping up was a bit triggering for me because it reminded me, once again, not only  how significantly things have changed between us but how close we had gotten to each other.

That Facebook comment was just one of many like those from her and, in fact, she was even making comments like this on Facebook up until things started to change. And again, which I think I mentioned before, this was a friend who literally was so paranoid about me leaving the friendship at one point she had called me after a text to make sure this wasn’t the case. So to go from this to seemingly being unconcerned about me ending our friendship after not reaching out to me for five months is unusual to put it mildly And, yes, I am sure this is partly related to her kids and her business but, quite frankly, I think this is all just her way of not addressing the missing “piece”.

You have to understand she is not a single mother raising two toddlers by herself  she is a mom with a two teenagers, who  has a part-time business with a husband who works from home.  Her kids were never an issue before and, in fact, up until just a few weeks before the turn around started,  she had  wanted me to meet her at the beach with her youngest a couple of times.  And, as to her business, she can certainly get busy but it’s really  up and down and I was one of the main champions of her business. On “paper” nothing really changed at all which should have caused any shift in our friendship. And what is really weird is she even told me she didn’t want anything  to change but clearly this was not a true statement on her part.

What I truly believe is that one of three things happened – she started seeing someone, she felt we were getting too close and needed to back down the friendship, or a combination of the two. I don’t think she wanted to end our friendship then, or even now, but what I do think is that because of whatever she has going on she  wants to keep our friendship in a bit of a “holding pattern”. If she is seeing someone the reason she hasn’t told me could be because she is worried it might cause me to walk on the friendship because I will be hurt or it could even be that she would feel  I would judge her.

I am not sure I am going to reach out on this and, if I did, I would probably draft 100 different emails before I sent anything but don’t you believe there is something else here that she has chosen not to disclose?

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