Hi TeaK  my son rang me today. He said his partner made him ring because it is Mother’s day here. I said it was good to hear from him and he was back with his partner but says he is still making plans to leave. That is his choice. I said he could ring me anytime and he admitted he didn’t need me to help, but just listen.  I consider that a breakthrough for me too, as I am always seeking to solve problems. It is in my nature, but I realise it is ok to solve my own problems, but I have to leave the problems of others alone. He won’t seek help. Yet. Maybe he never will.

I have been in contact with social services but his partner will not engage with help from them either.

He said we could meet up separately without his partner knowing but I said I won’t do that because it is dishonest.

He could only ring me today because she had gone out to see her mum with the baby.