Dear Sherry:

Good to read back from you! I am fine, thank you, and I appreciate your empathy regarding my decades-long disordered eating. My eating is currently very orderly, too ordered in the minds of other people, in that every day I tend to eat about the same things, at the same amounts, and I approximate (I do not measure) how many calories I take in and how many I burn. I don’t go a day without such calculation.

“I’ve been spending the last several days completely living in regret” –

– Psychology today. com/ The Psychology of regret: “Regret is a negative cognitive or emotional state that involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome… Regret can have damaging effects on mind and body when it turns into fruitless rumination and self-blame” –

– I read the rest of your post and I want to respond to other things you shared, but I want to ask you first regarding regret, which is a major problem you shared about, it being in the very title of your thread (“Regret over not doing enough to stop diabetes“):

Self-blame is in the core of regret, do you remember blaming yourself for other things, before the diabetes, such as maybe blaming yourself for not being a good-enough daughter, for disappointing a parent or for failing to make a parent happy, anything like that?

anita