Dear Ed:

You are welcome and thank you for being in my world!

“She chose to treat me fragmented, ‘loving’ the parts of me that she liked but almost punishing me for the parts of me she didn’t like” – you indicated here how fragmentation happens in an original, straightforward way: fragmentation happens when parts of a person are praised and other parts are punished. A part that’s Praised is declared Good, and a part that’s Punished is declared Bad.

What happens next is that a person is at war with the “bad” parts within.

“I understand that I held myself accountable for how others treated me, feeling like I was the cause for being treated bad“- so you believed that the bad part or parts of you caused another person to treat you accordingly, as in: bad treatment for bad Ed, justice served. Right?

“She chose to lie to me for a year…gaslighting me about everything going wrong…   I understand now that this behaviour triggered my ptsd and leading me deeper into the confusion I’m in now and always was, because I experienced this abuse time and time again before“-

– if you are okay with it, and only if you are, can you give me a few examples of her lies and a couple of examples of her gaslighting you, and.. an example or two of lies you were told as a child, as well as your experience with gaslighting, if any, as a child?

anita