Dear arabella:

“Do you think it’s possible that I can feel both?”- of course, you are proof of it: you feel both.

“I can feel ashamed because I know it was wrong and dishonorable and I would NEVER want to put my partner in this situation again even if he is unconscious of it. But I can also feel freedom that I spoke my truth in things I’ve been carrying around for too long?“- good thing you feel a freedom that you needed to feel for so long. Next, you need freedom from the shame and guilt that you are feeling, and the way to gain this freedom is to be the best person you can be to yourself and to your boyfriend.

This experience can lead you to be more forgiving when your boyfriend makes a mistake, or part mistake, and you know he will. I mean, everyone makes mistakes. More forgiving means being a better person.

anita