Dear Lynn:

You are welcome, Lynn.  * By the way, when I quote you, I make some grammatical editing for easier reading. I hope it’s okay with you, is it?

I see two issues here: (1) your partner and your relationship with her, and (2) her family (particularly her mother) and your relationship with her family.

Regarding the first issue:

“She told me before she want someone (who) can challenge her, like hard-to-get, something like that. while I am someone who doesn’t like arguing. I forgot to mentioned she having a Bipolar II… she said this relationship is bored. No spark“-

– Bipolar 2 involves periods of depression and periods of elevated mood (hypomania). I am guessing that your partner prefers the periods of elevated mood over depression. Looks like she is looking for another woman (or other women) to elevate her mood: to create excitement/ spark in her life, anything to stir her away from depression and boredom.

“In our first year of relationship I had been through a lots due to her sickness. She had depression (really bad one) I stayed,  and made sure to take care of her until she fine now“- you’ve been a good partner to her. She is fine now, you wrote. But she is also bored, and she wants excitement outside her relationship with you.

“It’s just a matter of time for me to let her go”- sooner than later may be better.

“Do you believe a quote saying ‘let it go, if they come back (she) is yours’. Like (it’s) meant to be. But (it) is hard for me to believe it. Most people who breakup won’t back to their ex“-

– well, I believe in (1)  letting go of people who are not good to you, or for you, (2) not letting back into your life people who are not good to you or for you, (3) I don’t believe in romantic destiny, that is, in the belief that there is one person out there who is meant to be with you.

Regarding the second issue, “I (am) really close with her family. Her family treated me so good, her mother cares for me..“-  it is possible that your partner’s mother likes you so much because she appreciates that you tolerated and took care of her daughter so well, making her (the mother’s) life easier this way. Is it?

If and when you are no longer in a relationship with her daughter, the mother may emotionally withdraw from you because you will no longer be taking care of her daughter. I am not saying that surely or probably this is what will happen: I am saying that it is a possibility. Did you ever talk to your partner’s mother about the troubles in your relationship with her daughter, past and current?

anita