Dear Farnaz:

You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation.

“I admire my dad more because he was living in reality… My dad was constantly lying about everything, his job, his wife, and .. you couldn’t get a truth from his lips“- he lived in reality but regularly lied about it… what do you mean by “lived in reality”?

“Especially when he felt you were desperate to hear the truth, he would lie even harder“- can you describe to me one incident when you were most desperate for the truth and in response, he lied to you even harder?

“The problem with toxic parents like ours is that they think they are actually very good people, I mean VERY good“- they claim that they are very good, but I don’t think they believe it; do you think that they truly believe it?

“One pattern that I see in my parents (was) they didn’t want to boost my ego in any way… like if I was right about something, they never acknowledged it… if my step mom did something very bad, my father didn’t acknowledge it and tried to blame me (for) be so sensitive“- reads like he rejected the truth because it was inconvenient truth, for him. Whatever was inconvenient for him to admit at any one time- he rejected.

“I forgave a lot of bad behaviors because it was similar to my parents“- you mean that you accepted (for a while) men who blatantly lied to you? (I asked 4 questions in a short post… you have the right to not answer… lol).

anita