Dear Laine:

Good to read back from you although I wish, of course, that you would be feeling way better than you are feeling.

“First of all, I really don’t have the spoons to delve into family dynamics and Freudian-esque analysis right now“-

– I love analyzing (and I overdo it at times, including here on your thread, sorry!), but this love for analysis has to be mutual, and since you don’t want any more of it: not a single Freudian-esque noise coming from me on your thread, I promise!

“I haven’t broken up with my partner. But this last month has been miserable and agonizing. I’ve fluctuated between intense anxiety and deep depression. I’m so dysregulated… It’s so exhausting. I sorta think ending my relationship is the best move, if only for the sake of my own mental health. I don’t know if it’s the right move, but at least I’ll be unstuck and free of this misery“-

– no doubt that if you don’t manage to regulate yourself, the only way for you to get a much needed relief from this misery is to break up with him. I imagine that it will feel like a great sense of relief and freedom, for the time being.

anita