Dear Palegazesunnidays:

Here it is, a printout from “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook“: “Rediscover your values: The word ‘values’ can be defined as your ethics, principles, ideals, standards, or morals… Remembering what you value in life can be a very powerful way to help you tolerate a stressful situation… Sometimes we forget why we’re doing something that’s hard, and this makes it difficult for us to continue…”

“Exercise: Valued Living Questionnaire: This first exercise will ask you to identify how you value ten different components of your life… Rate the importance of each component on a scale of 0 to 10, with 0 being not important at all and 10 being extremely important. Do your best to rate them honestly, according to your own true feelings, not to what you think you should rate them..”.

Next there is a list of “Life Components” on the left of the page, and 0-10 numbers to the right of each life component. The list:

“Family (other than  romantic relationships or parenting)

Romantic relationships (marriage, life partners, dating, and so on)

Parenting

Friends and social life

Work,

Education and training

Recreation and fun

Spirituality and religion

Citizenship and community life

Self-care (exercise, diet, relaxation, and so on)“.

Would you like to do this exercise, here on your thread or away from the computer?

(Following this exercise, there is another titled “Committed Action”.

anita