Let me start by sharing this: It is only natural to reflect on past experiences and question whether they have shaped our present circumstances. There is no fault or ill-intended limiting behavior in this type of self-reflection. However, it is important to recognize that the actions of others, and even more so those during childhood, do not define our worth or our capacity to form meaningful relationships. Your value is decided within and the lack of others to see your value is often, their loss. It is crucial to acknowledge that we are not responsible for the actions or perceptions of others, especially during our formative years. The ability to smile or express joy as a child is a beautiful aspect of innocence that should never be a source of guilt or self-blame.

It is also essential to understand that relationships, including those within our families, are complex and multifaceted. While seeking understanding and closure is a natural inclination, placing blame on ourselves for perceived shortcomings in these relationships is an unproductive path to tread. Allow me to make a suggestion: perhaps you should focus on nurturing self-compassion and forgiveness, both for yourself (that inner child that is hurting) and for those who hurt you so that you can leave it in your past. You don’t live there anymore.

This begins a journey of self-discovery and healing and it may be beneficial to seek support from a trusted therapist or counselor or even a life coach – that’s my background. Professional guidance can provide invaluable insights and strategies for processing past experiences, overcoming fear and loneliness, and cultivating healthier relationships in the future.

Always remember, that your worth and potential for happiness are not defined by your past experiences or the actions of others. Each of us possesses the strength and resilience necessary to overcome challenges and create a fulfilling life filled with love, connection, and purpose. Place your trust in your inherent worth and embrace the journey of self-discovery with courage and compassion. ALWAYS.