Hi John

How are you feeling? I would like to know if you are okay…

So you felt worried that she would lose interest in you. And you felt that being able to be vulnerable with her without being judged was an amazing experience. Perhaps you not had many people in your life that you have had that kind of experience with?

I can understand having an amazing experience and not wanting to lose it. She does sound like a special person. But, if it doesn’t work out there will be other people that you can be vulnerable with, there are other non judgemental people out there. Sometimes, they are not partners, sometimes they are just friends.

Believing that someone will lose interest… well that might be your experience in dating, that people sometimes lose interest. Or do you believe in yourself?

Tommy has some good points as well as some that I don’t necessarily agree with. But he is a good person, he doesn’t mean badly. He no doubt has different experiences to me in dating. My perspective is more forgiving.

I thought it was a good sign that you are both still in contact despite being on a break. I have had that experience before too. And I don’t necessarily believe that first impressions last forever. People can change. It sounds like to me that you are in the process of changing. You are doing good work with your therapist. You are starting to open up to people. Regardless of whether things do or don’t work out you with this person will have many wonderful experiences ahead of you. I do sincerely wish you good luck though.

It is helpful to be somewhat guarded of your emotions during the dating process because there are a lot of disappointments. And it is a lot of pressure for one person to be that kind of an experience for you. Ideally, people build larger support networks and have multiple amazing people to rely on.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏❤️