Hi Anita,

To put it right, yeah the last case of my cheat was the worst one, so I told her in advanced before she could hear from anyone else and we broke up. Thus I initiate no contact after met her one week after the broke up, telling her that I want to fix my thing, let her in her own time, and letting her know I still want to fix our relationship.

One month later, turns out the rumors has spread and my ex-girlfriend listened to the rumors and get pretty mad at is, as I imagine the rumors were full of details and stuff told by the one I had affair with. So in rage, she emotional dumped in her social media about my wrongdoings and I assume now my image in a few of my social life is gonna be affected. Not gonna rant about it, I accepted it all for my consequences. But as I said, its pretty hard to move forward in my part too.

[quote quote=430662] Before I suggest anything, I’d like to ask you: do you believe that (as I understand the psychologist suggested) you cheated on your girlfriend because you are not suited for a monogamous relationship, similarly to other male mammals who, in nature, and by nature, are not monogamous? anita [/quote]

About the thing above, I actually have thought about ENM a while ago. But after got the validation from my Pscyhologist, and after reviewing what happened and what I’ve been learning, told, and hold (teological side of myself), I decided to deny the thoughts of non-monogamous relationship at all. Not to mention its very taboo in my country’s moral compass. Its like not me and how I’ve been living my life. Also, if I am ENM, I wouldnt think I be this devastated approaching this break up problem.

There you go Anita.