Tommy – for the last 9 days I have been dying of guilt. I am not a person with these values, I have never lied or cheated ever. I am serious about Muns and having a relationship with her but realize that I lost her. With my wife, we have decided to move on as this marriage has been a problem for many years and we stuck along so that our kids are not impacted. Now that they are grown up it’s time to move on. Yes I did a mistake, I apologized sincerely to Muns and to my wife. I would like to move on and seek closure. I don’t know if my real intent was to fool Muns, our conversations werent utterly romantic but purely conversations around various topics, she intellectually stimulated me. In my mind and hers was to take this relationship forward but I was waiting for my wife to get separated and then fully commit to Muns. Yes I should have been transparent to Muns that my wife is staying with me and we are in the process of separation somewhere in July then she could have opted to just keep in touch and not pulled into building future with me, it’s a huge huge expectation failure and I am aware of that. I have now stopped dating and hope to get the separation done as the first step and then take it forward step by step.

In my mind, marriages work as a team, it is never about man or woman. Your post is making it more of making someone more guilty, I am here to seek closure because deep down I am kind, honest and my values are different. I would like to leverage that in my next relationship, I would have loved to get back to Muns but as faith has it, that chapter looks closed, it would take a miracle for her to revisit this relationship in my mind.