Hi Anita

I think this is a great analysis. We’ve talked about this topic very generally, and he’s aware of it, at least a little. He’s pretty emotionally disconnected and tells me he often doesn’t know what he’s feeling until after the emotion has passed. I’m not sure about the sex bit because he has no worries having sex at night. Maybe he feels better because it’s late, dark, we are sometimes a little drunk, and all that makes it easier to handle.

I think maybe he’s found this relationship unexpectedly demanding (his only other relationship was long distance and they only saw each other a few times a year), and he hasn’t been able to fully cope. And I am very sensitive and anxious to begin with, so I haven’t handled it well either. I’m bothered by how much has been lurking and have been feeling very emotional and pessimistic lately.