Thanks Anita.  What you said all makes sense – the part about being an acquaintance and no longer a friend really hurts, but is perhaps the reality.

I responded and said that either works (one is two months away and one is three months away) but let’s wait till it’s closer to see how his schedule works.  I didn’t say I feel hurt but said I feel unbalanced and need some time to adjust.  He responded and said he understand and then said he would take down the catchup and will just follow up in two months to see where things at and that he hopes I find the balance.

I know it all sounds good and polite but I wanted to my friend back – the friend who would say more than that and talk to me.  Maybe I am too selfish and demanding too much of his attention.

But the fact that he said he is going to take down the catchup just makes me feel hurt again.

Maybe our attachment styles are not matching?