It is hard! I also had the experience of finding out my ex was seeing someone else and it was really devastating. I felt like I was expendable and he’d found someone ‘better’ than me. I still feel pain about it, but I have to remind myself that he’s not trying to hurt me, the new person isn’t better or worse than me, we obviously weren’t right for each other (or we would naturally still be together!) – and the hurt I feel will fade and go away eventually.

It’s very hard to accept the feelings associated with this type of situation, so remind yourself as much as need that you’re doing a great job, because you are! And even if you do things you end up regretting to try to forget about your pain for a while, don’t beat yourself up about it; you’re going through a process, and you have the right to allow yourself some ‘mistakes’ while this is happening.

I’m glad I was able to respond to your post 🙂 It also helps me to know that other people feel what I feel – it’s part of our common humanity and it’s comforting to remember that.

Take care of yourself there!