Sherry,

I disagree with inkrid’s approach, seems manipulative, which is a short term patch for a long term issue. Does he know about your feelings about valentine’s day and mother’s day? Sometimes women feel their feelings are invalid, and fear sharing them. This leads to a build up of pressure that festers into resentment. Often, men would do anything to see their loved one happy, but don’t like feeling forced into behaving. Consider approaching it like a puzzle. “When you didn’t do anything for me on v-day or mother’s day, it felt icky for me. I like feeling loved and tenderly attended, and your non-action left me feeling unloved. What is it like on your side?”

Said differently, come to the plate, offer him your side, and open gently to his. Do you know why he didn’t do anything? Is he rebellious to “hallmark holidays”? Does he offer you tender attentions in other ways?

This may be a symptom of poor communication of feelings and thoughts in your relationship. Its foolish to expect him to be psychic or just “get your needs” if you don’t express them before they are full of pressure and anger. Said differently, consider a heart to heart, it’ll be good for you both in the long run. If he needs some motivation, you can always tell him that a properly tended woman often feels safe to be much more expressive with her passion. 🙂

With warmth,
Matt