Are you sure you can even call that a friend – friends or even normal humans, 10 year olds have the maturity to understand why they couldnt crash on your bed one night – your grandma was taken to the hospital that night for Chrissake! Why are you trying to make an effort to please this immature idiot again?
And yes, sometimes our boyfriend’s friends dont like us anyway and that doesnt mean we have to bend over like crazy whenever needed just to maintain peace – live with your differences but i doubt his behavior that time was acceptable either. Does your boyfriend know of his friend’s attitude that night?
As for being a propeller of conflict, my dear, your bf is a grown man (assuming) and he will have the sense to tackle things accordingly. Seriously, why are you thinking this much over someone else’s immaturity? Friends do not behave the way he did.