I also used to think “Well, I don’t want to be the controlling girlfriend. Maybe I shouldn’t say anything. Maybe I am the problem”. I felt bad because I didn’t want him to think I was controlling who he was “allowed” to talk to, hang out with, etc. BUT, the more I thought about it, the more I realized if I didn’t do/say anything, I would always be unhappy and our relationship would never evolve. And I had to be a little selfish and acknowledge that 1. I wanted to be happy, 2. I wanted our relationship to grow, because I do think he is the love of my life. So, even if I knew it would make him upset and that it would end up with us arguing, I HAD to say something.

I had friends telling me I was insecure but I definitely am not. I think it was a lack of respect for him to keep in touch with his ex-girlfriend and I didn’t want her to still be in the picture. When you say they are still in contact, are they texting? Talking on the phone? Messaging each other on Facebook? (God knows I HATE social media, but that is another story…) Hanging out together?

I am not sure if you can send private messages on tinybuddha, but I am there if you need to talk 🙂