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Hey, everyone! What’s going on? I mean, I can see what’s going on due to the fact that you all have love drama. Truthfully, I have never had a boyfriend, but I can reassure you that, if you do break up with someone because the relationship isn’t working out, you should try to focus on yourself. I’m not going to lie, there have been times when I feel alone, even when I have friends and family to talk to. But then I have to remember all of the accomplishments I need to achieve in order to be the best person I can be. I have lots of goals, dreams, and desires. We live in a society where people feel they need to be in a relationship in order to be happy, YOU DON’T!
While I personally don’t want to reveal my entire personal life for the world to read, I’ll reveal what I’ve learned about love and relationships so far. I didn’t really know what love (I STILL don’t know what love is, then again who does in this day and age?) I remember growing up with Disney movies, including the Disney Princess ones. I thought the guys that the princesses ended up with would be the kind of guy in real life. Charming, brave, heroic, the archetype of Prince Charming, or whatever is a woman’s ideal love partner. Now that I’m in my 20s, I’ve realized that you can’t make people fall in love with you. Men and women both have flaws. That’s why love is one of the most difficult, beautiful, heart rendering emotions out there. It’s easy to fall into the trap that a guy won’t ever love you due to whatever you have: commitment issues, trust concerns, a disability. Anything.
Disney movies may have given me high hopes in following your dreams, and they’ll always have a special place in my heart, but they gave me the wrong idea of what relationships are supposed to be like. REAL relationships have struggles, triumphs, setbacks, and then people who overcome adversity. There’s no happiness in a relationship 24/7. That would be uber creepy. Way creepy. To Jennifer, I personally wouldn’t break up and get back together with a guy numerous times. If it’s over for good, don’t look back and move on to your other personal desires. That’s what I got from your post. Inky, I LOVED what you said about egos and the fact that woman can have them as well. Sometimes the ego can play with our brain and distract us from what we should be aiming towards. And B, I hope you work things out with your girlfriend.
It’s funny. I always let my hopeless romantic side get the best of me, and when I hear about people’s relationship ordeals, I say to myself, “Thank God I’m still single!” As much as I love love and emotions, I prefer peace, tranquility, and harmony. I just remind myself that there will be a guy out there for me who loves me for who I am, even if I do get crazy at times. This is especially important to ladies, but to everybody, if you feel insecure, remind yourself why you’re awesome. That’s what I do. Whether it’s making lists, or going over things I wrote before in my journals, I’m generally a confident person. Everyone, live, laugh, love, and keep reaching for the stars.