I’m sorry but your friend sounds like a bit of a jerk. I do agree, that feelings are illusions because you choose to feel angry, sad, hurt, as well as happy, grateful, etc… But they way for someone that studies Zen, handling the situation is very poorly indeed. What’s he’s doing is dismissing you as an individual. Maybe there’s a damn good reason why you choose to feel sad, hurt and unhappy.

As we’re human, we can’t help to feel hurt, sad etc. Especially if we’re with the people that we’re close with. We tend to let all of the guards down and just be ourself.

He also does sound like need to attend one of this angry management class. Want to punch the wall because you stopped in the middle of your typing? I mean, come on!

Building a better communication skills start with LISTENING and I dont think he listens to you. You just to be honest with him and things will get better when people listen and acknowledge.

xo