Parth,

He sounds lonely to me. When you’ve talked to him about the way his presence affects your family, what did he say?

From a different direction, consider: if he’s lonely, and trying to connect with your family, you have a couple options. One, tell him to get away, call the police, grab your garden hose, or some other form of pest removal. The second, embrace him, give him hugs, help him feel welcome in this world by including him. Maybe invite him in for dinner.

It sounds like the tension is coming from his invasion of your boundaries. Like, him pressing close to your family, prying and trying. The easiest way to be free from your own agitation is to stop calling him evil, and see past his invasion to the loneliness that drives it, and forgive him for it. We all want to connect, have a family, and it sounds like he’s trying to be a part of yours. You don’t have to let him, shoo him away if you folks don’t want him around. But why are you acting like a victim? Does he have some kind of superpowers that prevents you from pushing him away?

From a different direction, let’s say a cat got under your porch and started meowing and hissing. Its dumb to become agitated that the cat is being a cat. Either find out why the cat is so unhappy, or get him out from beneath your porch. To sit and stew just turns the cats meowing into your own meowing. See?

With warmth,
Matt