Hi Matt,

Thank you so much – your post was so touching and gentle and much needed for my broken heart during this incredibly sad time. It’s funny that you said that, I feel your advice is what my heart is telling me to do, I just got off the phone with a friend where I asked her if I should just reach out end of the week (giving it 2.5 weeks where we haven’t spoken) and reach out in that manner you suggested, so reading your post right now confirms that is what I am to do.

I am going to text him that I saw a car that looked just like his and it made me laugh and think of him and ask him how he’s doing (I always tease him about his car and it always makes him laugh) – he’ll probably respond, knowing him: “lol that’s funny. I’m good, u?” – so where do I go from there? we are still not in the same country and wont be until the new year (which makes this even more difficult) – should I ask him if we can FaceTime and then apologize that way, or apologize via text?

and after that initial contact, should I begin contacting him daily? Knowing him, he likely wont make the first move to text in the coming days afterwards because that’s how it has been the last month……. no effort on his part to reach out first and thats one of the things we also fought about that lead him to sending his last confusing text to me……. I basically texted him to stop ignoring me and start showing more effort to communicate…… 🙁