Hello,

First I don not think you are a loser and I hope you will start talking to yourself kindly because the way we talk to ourselves create our reality to a very big extent… that is good news because the better you talk to yourself the quicker you can change your reality. It might not be easy but it is possible.

the other thing I would had is that you seem to have a negative belief about yourself being a loser- quiter… I am not sure when that started ? who ever told you you were a loser ? Often we end up believing things that we have been told when we were little even if they are not true… If you really find you cannot break this pattern of sabotaging yourself, it does not mean you are not capable or that there is something wrong with you. It means you need to get to know yourself and understand why you do what you do. Once you have some awarness you can work on changing your attitude and beliefs. Often times we need help in doing so and that can be – reading books about the “subject”, blogs with other people’s experiences of similar problems.. there is a very good platform on the net where you can find tones of information about everything and anything and it is called ted x. look it up. As well sometimes therapy can help, it sure helped me loads to move on from destructive thinking pattern that were unhelpful in my life too… Life is a journey and all that matters is now and doing your best , growing a day at a time and smiling, loving ourselves step by step… You are worthy and you have dreams that it s awesome now you need to work at undoing the barriers you have but you will grow and you can realise your dreams no matter what they are- be patient, love yourself, do your best and move forward !!! Hope this helps. a lot of love from another human being only doing their best too 🙂 xxx