Wow! I really feel blessed that total strangers, you: Janice, Inky and DeepThinker, took some of your precious time to write back!! I am also thankful for Tina Buddha whom I discovered through its wise and helpful articles found on its blog and for giving us such an opportunity to exchange on topics that you don’t feel like sharing with the wrong people. I feel less alone. THANK YOU!! I DO WANT PEACE, and had found it until she invited us for Xmas again this year but emailed me instead of her brother. She knows the fight is not settled. I give her credit for wanting to invite us; she probably is rising some kind of white flag but I have advised her that I wouldn’t talk to my husband (her brother) about it that she would have to invite him herself. I am more of a loner and when such situations come up, it just reinforces my idea that I’m better off on my own, that relationships can be so complicated. Thanks again! Good luck DeepThinker!! Group hug!:)