This sums it up.

The choices in modern life are overwhelming. Go on online dating and their will be hundreds of people in your email – apply to a job site and you get 100 new options sent to you. Most of them won’t work if you apply but so much effort.
Past generations did not have this – maybe they had no choice at all.

Focus on the present and future and this is the reality. Well meaning we try to navigate our lives and get something closer to what we want. But it creates unease. Because we are choosing our lives. And there is an urge to avoid it which doesn’t work.

This is the alternative to brooding over the mistakes of the past.