Thank you Peace.

Yes, I agree, I have switched focus to protecting me and my son and have backed out of any involvement with his daughter and his ex in order to protect me and also to give him the space he needs to deal with his situation on his own terms. I guess I am not protecting “us all” but rather felt that the decision I made was one that in fact did benefit him and her too. But I can see that is no longer my responsibility and no need for me to take credit for that.

“In five years if this is over there will be something else you have to work through.” You make a good point, thank you.

“As far as the relationship you wish you had any little step you can take to make it happen is in your power.” Words to consider.