Hi there,

I followed your link and actually found a word for what I went through myself a couple years ago, which quite took me by surprise. I had never considered that he might have done it on purpose, I always thought it was his alcohol addiction…

What really helped me with the severe sleeping problems I had in the wake of the whole thing was the hypnosis tapes and the videos of Joseph Clough – http://www.josephclough.com – He’s written a book as well, if you prefer reading, but I haven’t read it (yet!). He basically tells you that it is up to you to decide how you see yourself and where you are going in your life, and shows you how to make sure you don’t get side-tracked. His videos and some of his hypnosis audio are free. His work really helped me move on and take charge of my life.

I’m at a point now where I’m not even angry at my ex-husband anymore. I’ve grown so much from going through this and now appreciate so many things in my life that I didn’t even notice before – I just wish that my kids didn’t have to go through it all too.