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What tips do you have to keep you going and feeling confident and strong – to keep going even when you feel down or angry or jealous or behind? Sometimes I try repeating mantras in my head or in the car which is useful or listen to songs like Fort Minor.
You may want to work on coping with rejection and your confidence factor.
When it comes to dating, my failure rate is higher than my success rate. I think that is true for the majority of men – even for those that seems to be successful with the ‘ladies’. In dating, you are going to get rejected a lot so get use to it or remain single for the rest of your life.
The most important aspect though is to learn from those failures without letting them drive you crazy. Maybe you are a poor conversationalist? Your wardrobe sucks? You chew food and talk at the same time and ended up spitting food on her? Etc… It is important to self-analyze so you can grow as a person.
Confidence is an attraction booster. If you like yourself and are happy with your life then you will naturally be confident. If you don’t have natural confidence, it is possible to fake it and get a few dates, but real confidence will you get you further in dating and life.
Now confidence can be a bit tricky and turn into arrogance so you need to toe that line very carefully. How do you recognize it?
Confidence is quiet; It is thoughtful, kind, spontaneous, and generous to all those around. Confidence stems from peace of mind.
Arrogance is loud; It is brash, selfish, manipulative, and guarded. Arrogance stems from insecurities.
To recap:
You are going to get rejected a lot, and that is completely normal.
You should keep trying and continue to learn from your setbacks and failures.
You need to grow as a person and like yourself for who you are and because that is where confidence comes from.